OVISM: if it makes you feel any better, from a logical point of view, the odds are in favor of the more sheltered community.
Although passing nisyonos may strengthen once�s character, innocence once lost can not simply be regained.
This is a major factor why you�ll generally speaking find a much greater percentage of young adults going OTD in the Modern Orthodox vs. Ultra-Orthodoxy world. If you see a Frum community where this does not apply, they may be too extreme, or �just for show� without substance.