Unfortunately, my husband had this same attitude when my kids were dating and it had absolutely nothing to do with the kids at all or if they were damaged from the divorce or not. He just plain and pashut said, that sometimes it is difficult to deal with mechatonim to begin with, he just doesn’t want to deal with 2 sets of mechatonim for one shidduch, he just does not have the patience, the stamina and the PC etiquette to handle it!
