thank you eclipse-i think hating your parents is a choice you make
i think most parents really strive to make their home wonderful for their kids within the limits of the various pressures/phobias/stuff that they are dealing with
most people who go the full mile, at the end of the day when the parent is 60+ and the child is 30+ usually love their parents and think they did an incredible job.
anyway on the subject-I heard about a great book- “Just One Jew” (available at feldheim.com) that takes you through one OTD experience that is incredible.