If that is your assumption, then she certainly is up to no good.
msseeker: Yes. If you want, I will use the term “react strongly” instead of “defensive” (which you may feel is negative).
my way of life is being dragged through the mud by my fellow Jew
Be strong and ignore her. Hashem and His Torah is your justification. Besides, I wouldn’t call it a Chillul Hashem, if what we are doing is right. Taharas Hamishpacha is not a Chillul Hashem. Let people know that we sacrifice for our Ribbono Shel Olam (isn’t that what we always tell the MO?)
For some reason, the Chassidish women “react strongly” to this, just like MO “react strongly” when someone disrespects Rav Kook. It’s only natural.
That will be $125. 😉