On the market: It sounds like you really want to switch, but have other reasons you are not telling us that is making this a major challenge. That’s fine but you really need to think on it.
WIY: It would be so much better if it was Jewish men who aren’t frum?
Edit: It’s not like it happens all the time, and I make it pretty clear I’m not interested if I so much as sense interest. But I can’t even imagine what it’s like for someone straight out of BY.