David Bar-Magen, when a person is deep in mud, (idna d’ris’cha), it isn’t a time to battle with others.
Asking for rachmonus with ka’as does not invoke rachmonus, adarrabah. (As the velt says: B’rogez – rachem tizkor, that is a wishful tefilah!)
If you are full of bitterness, self pity, hate and loathing – come learn Torah. Divrei Torah misamchin ess halev.
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