I don’t think it’s anti-Torah per se, it’s non-Torah. Compassion is wonderful, but when you put it ahead of other values (e.g. oneg Shabbos)in a way which halachah does not demand or even request, you’re just using an excuse to follow an “ism” rather than the Torah.
Your example of hashovas aveidah is backwards. Learn the sugya and you’ll see what I mean.