popa_bar_abba: Are you popa_bar_abba saying that even on Rosh haShono & Yom Kippur when men wear a Kittle with a White Kippa in Shul, that your wife will still not let you attend Shul without a black hat?
& How about if you are coming home from work without a hat passing Shul which is just comencing Mincho or Maariv:- Are you popa_bar_abba saying that your wife won’t let you go to Shul and want you to miss that Mincho or Maariv simply because you are missing a hat?