Zdad – that is very true. even if it is not mental abuse, there are certain behaviors that will be manageable for some and intolerable for others. I remember a friend telling me about certain things her husband did that she just couldn’t tolerate anymore. It was causing a lot of problems between them. inside I cringed because some of them were things I/my husband did all the time but in the context of our house it wasn’t an issue. (for a mild example; bringing home company for shabbos unannounced)
