Syag Lchochma-
“Perhaps you are defining abuse so specifically that it cannot include the commonplace embarrassment, subtle put downs, dismissals that seem like nothing but dig into the child. And you are only thinking of horrible things that really and honestly would not be happening.”
This particular paragraph speaks volumes of your understanding and outlook of Chinch.
Do you really believe that a “offhand” remark is abuse? Subtle putdowns? Dismissals? All abuse? No wonder you see abuse everywhere.
You are the perfect Ami reader. Congrats!