Flatbusher- In this day and age, I think people have to have the expectation that pictures taken can end up anywhere, and I don’t know how you can control it other than relying on the integrity of the picture taker to honor your wishes.
I think in a frum setting people really don’t have to expect this. Maybe on the street i agree but by a frum simcha i disagree. And if you’ll say “but there are people that’ll do it”
Wolf- In our days of ubiquitous camera phones and social media, I have to wonder if guests taking pictures is something that has become such a normal thing to do that a host requesting otherwise would fall out of the social norms.
I dont know the rules of what makes something normal. Point is, there are so many simchas that ive been to that arent smartphone simchas, where most people in attendance are holding on to their values. As for the handful of people that do have smartphones there, they have the decency not to publicize pics. So what is the norm?
(BTW What happens if by half of orthodox jews this isn’t the common practice, do i go by where i am or what the general populace does?)