Sparkly: who said anything about Reform Jews being “better” than frum Jews? I certainly didn’t.
nishtayngesheft: I’m not sure what your distinction between “chessed” and “true chessed” is, but either way, in my experience, Reform synagogues do a lot of social service projects, like feeding the poor, for instance. That certainly qualifies as chessed.
apushatayid: I feel genuine warmth towards Reform Jews. Certainly not chanifa. It depends what you mean by approval. I certainly don’t “approve” when they tell me that they are going on a road trip next Saturday, but I don’t say anything against it because that would not be productive. But I do “approve” of them as people.