DY: Joe still hasn’t explained why marriage will suddenly preserve the idealism, while staying unmarried will allow it to degenerate. Until he explains that, I go by the way I understand it.
gaw: There is a YU Rosh Yeshiva whose wife is a doctor. It works really well for them- he was around/flexible when she was in med school and residency, and her income once she was established allowed him to stay learning and focused without worrying too much about parnassa. She doesn’t recommend this, but it’s still something. I actually know several rabbinical student-med student couples.
DY: I think it does, just boys assume that they have to be in long-term learning in order to get a shidduch (which they do, with an immediately post-sem girl) and don’t realize how many girls moderate later on.