flatbusher: Wait question please. Is is normal/healthy for a guy to abide by his rabbi’s advice (yes or no) 100%?
I dated someone who took what one of his rabbis very seriously. Okay I was truly not observant enough for him, and I personally was not comfortable commiting for other reasons. So we had good reasons to not work out.
That said: About one gadol in particular, he said that he would follow his word blindly, and this guy did so. He said that in the end he knows nothing and he will follow the tzaddik over his own feelings and judgment. If that means that in Olam Habah he did the wrong thing, at least he knew it was because he followed the tzaddikim; thus Hashem would approve regardless.
…So when Lavender said that the guy that she dated and his rabbi came to a decision, I guessed that it was just that some guys listen to their rabbi no matter what. Even so, agreed, in some cases intimacy feels compromised when a fourth party is brought in (in addition to Hashem).
Though… Def def definitely it is so wise to ask one’s rabbi and elders about personal matters so important as a marriage partner. Also the couple certainly needs a rabbi that they can turn to in matters where they differ, and for halachic guidance.
Still, wondering if anyone else here that is married had such an influential rabbi and listened to him 100%?