Reply To: obtain a beis din's preliminary ruling without actually going to a beis din

Lightbrite, you are going way too far in trying to find abuse that just isn’t there, i.e., “Thus far you told us that while interrogating the rabbi, he didn’t have any examples to prove his case. Often an abusive individual will get defensive and demand proof, which can be overwhelming and leave one at loss for words.” Later on, our Rabbi said he didn’t know if there was abuse or not; he just knew what my wife had been telling him. I really think some people are too pre-disposed to divorce instead of first working on saving the marriage.