SH: You keep on spitting back the same Kool-aid. But I haven�t heard of one family that had this minhag in Europe. Aderaba, I�d like to hear from non Lubavitch readers here to the contrary.
And I believe a young girl shouldn�t be asked to go against her family�s minhag. (Although it was probably prefaced with something to the effect of �with your parents� permission� I still think it�s wrong.)
Neither should someone who says his own TRADITIONAL grandmother disagrees.
But it�s not this that�s getting me �riled up�. It�s the whole pattern here of deceit and lies, and trying to cater the message to suit the audience.