Reply To: Setting up a MO girl with a serious Lakewood bochur = good idea or not?

fff – “If the guy is really a serious learner in Lakewood, I cannot imagine he would agree to be set up, let alone his parents approving of it. If he is willing to go out, I would question how serious is. ”

This girl ,besides all her personal maalos, is an actuary, earning 6-figures. She can easily support the long term learning of this bochur and can work remotely from EY using internet. This allows a serious lerner to reach for his dreams!

On top of that, she is machshiv Torah learning as her father is a RY and Rosh Kollel in a MO yeshiva. Plus, her parents would help major expenses like buying a house, car, bungalow, flights etc.

Girls hope the biy will change with time – and become less of a shlump – but it doesn’t happen.

Bochurim hope the girl won’t change – stay just a she is. Softspoken, aidel, fit. But she will change. The size 2 becomes size 12, The aidel maidel becomes an opinionated pisk.

Hashkofos – everyone can deal with it by learning to leave to G-d the relationship with G-d.