“I stand strong on my opinion that schools must let their benefactors know how and on what their money is spent. ”
you expressed no such opinion. What you said was:
” These donors are under the impression that their money is being used to subsidize the tuition of those children whose parents can not pay”
You state that the money is ‘stolen’ because the donors are “under the impression” that it is subsidizing tuition but that it is not. That is Motzei Shem Rah on a huge huge number of Jews. Besides the fact that you have NO way of knowing if it is true AT ALL, you absolutely have NO claim to it happening as a rule. If you and Joseph are unclear on hilchos lashon hora (as has been indicated in the past), then look it up.
And if you want to do yourself a real favor, either qualify it with a “in my imaginary world” or retract it.