To Amentch and all participants
look up at ??? ???? ??? ?”? ????? ??”? ??? ? and you will find a clear answer on your question on potching in our times.
In ????? of ??? ???? ???????? he points out that there is a derech hatora in chinuch which is applicable at al generations, like ???? ???? ????? ????? , but while in previous generations even if someone was not so makpid on ???? ????? and he used more the ???? ???? it did not damage the childs yidishkeit because he was mekabel anyways, but today (and this was before the war) you have to be mechanech solely on derech hatorah ???? ???? ????? ????? and you can not allow yourself to use only the ????.
The lubavitch rebbe in shichas ?”? ???? ???”? was talking against what some want to interpret the words of Shlomo Hamelech ???? ???? ???? ??? as not meaning a real ??? etc. and pointed out that you cannot change the simple pshat of a possuk.
So look up the shevet halevi