Syag, in your gut vort, you may be under-using your Rav by relying mostly on public pronouncements, as the answers may be different for different people. Maase HaRav (the one who is pro-DT). Shortly after I asked him re:kids and schools, he spoke at length on the topic at a seuda. On the way out, I said – “thanks”. He raised his brows – “I was talking to someone else”.
So, say, your Rav feels that he needs to encourage community to stay together despite pandemic. If you come to him and ask – my friends on YWNCR say that people might die, what would you advise me to do to make people safer without breaking that community spirit, maybe he will answer.