Why should the kallah be the one to suffer?
You could eliminate the solid gold watch and band for the Chassan.
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BTW, why is it always the have nots trying to change the norm by trying to eliminate something the haves can afford.
My advice has always been: if you can�t afford it don�t do it, and don�t go into debt to impress others.
My daughters were married in our gardens, not some expensive wedding hall. We didn�t have 500 guests, mostly unknown by chassan and kallah.
Work out a budget you can afford and stick to it. If you can only afford a Chevrolet, you don�t buy a Bentley to impress the neighbors.