If you are concerned about internet misuse either by children or adults, the first thing to do is to disconnect phones and use computers. Phone use encourages impulsivity and abuse by making it available when you should be doing something else. So first establish use on the computer, then monitor traffic for a couple of weeks to understand what is improper, then adjust the filters appropriately. In case of outrageous misuse, put whitelist filters that allow only ywn, wsj, hebrewbooks and khan academy. . If the kid doesn’t complain for a week, need to find out what trick he is using and block that. At minimum, your kid will learn some non trivial computer skills and you will gain some mutual respect.
