AAQ: I think that our differences of opinion are where the issue starts from. You seem to feel that schools should have very few standasrds in regard to anything that is not directly academic, i.e. “Frumkeit” standards. The reality is that schools are in the business of educating children according to that schools standards. You have the right to choose the standards you want for your children. If you don’t like it, go somewhere else. As in if you can’t afford the best doctor, you go to a doctor who is qualified but cheaper, or covered by insurance. I am not sure why you feel that because you want to send your children to a specific school, they HAVE to accomodate you financially. If all schools have tuition whithin a certain range, maybe there is a reason for it. One thing i can tell you, there is no secret cabal of school administrators gathered in someones basemant in the middle of the night fixing the prices for tuitions across the board, for all schools.
I can tell you that by your suggestions, you have never been in Yeshiva administration. I cannot imagine why a school should allow for outside influences to be brought in. Going to an online public school whith their permissive curriculum is a recepe for disaster. As a parent you may choose this but as a mainstream yeshiva, I can’t imagine.
Don’t get me wrong, I agree that there is a major problem, but I can’t imagine a solution. With the price of eggs at abt 6.50 a dozen, I imagine you demand the groceries charge less, the bakeries shouldn’t raise prices on goods containing eggs,etc since who can afford it. A yeshiva education costs. Going around saying that there must be indifference/mismanagement/outright theft/ cronyism or whatever fingers you want to point will not change facts. Things cost. “You” would probably be one to complain if the windows were broken, building wasn’t maintained, food poor quality or lack of variety or unhealthy.
Keeping seminaries off Shidduch resumes is not practical. You want to speak to her freinds. That will be the fist questiion asked. It gives you an idea of her hashkafos etc.
As far as publishing test results etc- totally irrelevant. When picking a school, I hope you do reaserch. Ask other parents, speak to teachers, go to school to observe. Your information will not come from dry facts reported. Stats are manipulatedall the time. Yeshivos tend ot have a pretty weal limudei chol department, but tend to score pretty high on regents compared to statewide averages.
Moving to states with vouchers is great if it works for you, but what does that have to do with Yeshiva admnistration in states without vouchers?
As far asd respect for other shitos, I can respect your shitos but not want them in my school. They go against everything I stand for. I won’t disrespect them, but you as parent/student need to have respect for MY shitos, they are just as valid as yours.
I agree the problem exists, but I believe the problem is bigger than you do. You seem to feel that if everybody would play nice and sit around the campfire singing Kumbaya all problems would go away. this is so naive
My apologies for this comment going all over the place in this comment, I am a little ADHD 😉