Ellie7,
“The vibe of the whole letter is placing men�s issues squarely on women�s shoulders. You�re turning women into the bad guy and framing men as poor, innocent bystanders.”
I can understand why that’s angering. I personally didn’t get that vibe at all from the letter. While the focus was on something that women are doing (the attractive sheitals), the letter writer did include:
“This is not an easy conversation. It demands humility from men and self-awareness from women.
Men must admit how easily visual stimuli can impact them. Women must acknowledge the inherent power of their presence and attractiveness, even without enhancements.”
Later the writer wonders if the fancy sheitals are due to pressure from husbands to be a “trophy”, or due to their lack of attentiveness, etc. Given this, I don’t think he was intending to frame women as evil and men as good. Rather, where I think he errs is that he assumes women are wearing expensive, fancy sheitals to attract male attention. I don’t think that is typically the case.