amom,
I am not arguing with your lifestyle choices, H’Sh. Just discussing theory here. There are not that many demeaning tasks in the house that your kids are not capable of doing. As my kids report, many of their friends have no idea about chores, they have non-English speaking cleaning stuff doing everything for them. When in camp, they struggle with very simple support. And some, not all, of these families rely on public assistance to cover their non-working lifestyle. What is going to happen with these kids, especially girls, when they become responsible for their own household with husbands learning and limited income? As gemora says in Kiddushin ~ 29 – a father not teaching his son a profession is teaching him robbery (listut).
