This isn’t us vs them. We are am Yisrael. We are brothers and sisters. When someone else comes to kill your family, why is it their job to defend you? And why is it only your job to have children?
We all have a responsibility to one another. Kol Yisrael Areivim!
Being part of a nation, of a society, of a people and of a family demands more than being present. It requires participating. Hareidim participate in maintaining the Torah values within our society. And sometimes, as my mashgiach often told us, our roles change. Sometimes a kollel yungerman comes home to find that his wife is struggling with an old sheitel, or is embarrassed to go to a simcha because she doesn’t have a nice dress. My mashgiach was very clear that when you reach a point where your family needs the parnassah, your role changes. Now you have a chiyuv to do more.
As members of our family, we all have a chiyuv to do more. To do less asking what you do for me, and more asking what we can do for another. Every family or marriage counselor will tell you that when you start asking what the others are doing for you, the relationship goes downhill fast.
We need the chilonim. We need chareidim. We need dati leumi. We need every holy yid in our family. When our family is being physically hurt, we all stand together. In our tefillos, our tsedaka, our chessed and sometimes, by being Moser nefesh for one another.
Your entire premise tears at our entire mesorah for what it means to be a Yid. Please stop demanding more of others, and start asking what you can do for others. This is the only way forward for our entire people.