It sounds like you are all coming from modern homes – well let me tell you something – coming from the chasidishe world – and a frum ubringing – the torah and gedolim do not allow coed before marriage. I never spoke to any boys ,or even had such desires before marriage – I had 2 sit ins with my chassan – THATS ALL!!! And I am baruch hashem very happily married – couldn’t be better – take a poll – its a fact…. chasidishe ppl always had the divorce rate much lower then the rest of jewish sects. And its not because ppl were afraid of divorce stigmas – it is because we are happily married!!! This is the right torahdige way… there is no question about it. NO COED!!!
