I want to share something that may help in regards to asking shailos.
I had a situation (without details of course) where I wasn’t sure if I should continue with the shidduch. I had parents, shadchan, friends etc involved (which by the way not a good idea b/c I had everyone giving me contradicting opinions) until finally I said out with everyone else… I need to speak to a Rav THAT DEALS WITH THESE THINGS VERY OFTEN as well as KNOWS ME to some extent that he can give a good eitzah. And so, I called up this Rav flustered and a bit emabarrassed and tried to recap e/t in a not so long phone conversation. He gave me eitzah, but I wasn’t content with it and I felt that he didn’t chap the matziv. I followed some of his advice and was back in touch with him. When I spoke to him the second time, apparently I had given a much bigger picture where he could help me MUCH MORE b/c he saw more details and things became clearer to him. Suffice it to say he helped me through and helped me to be aware of what I needed to be aware of and make appropriate decisions. I also went to Daas Toirah for a bracha and extra eitza and you can’t go wrong I dont care what when you follow the psak of gedolei Hador. They see things that we dont.
If you made it thru the story great. My point being… go to a rav… ASK and GET EITZAH but be clear and repeat the situation and give as many details as needed to get the proper eitzah and then you With Siyata Dishmaya you cant go wrong