BS”D
Ah, but according to Torah there is no such thing as a “gay” person; there is a person who was caught performing a certain act in front of 2 edim (very hard I would say) and is therefore subject to the death penalty. There is also no such thing as a “thief” – there is someone who is caught stealing and therefore must make restitution.
It is only in decadent secular society that one is defined by the direction which one’s yetzer horo takes.
And “gays” are not a traditional minority – they are a group that chooses to define itself by their particular inclination. They are no more deserving of any special rights than self-defined “thieves” are.
However, at the end of the day marriage in the US secular system is worth so little that this is really one for the lawyers to make a mint on as if toeva marriage goes through they will now be able to handle divorces among those who define themselves as “gay”. It is also a problem for the insurance companies and for inheritance tax law.
Our problem occurs only if the law forces us to rent or sell homes in our communities to those who openly proclaim themselves as defined by that toeva.