Something I’ve tried to stress to my boys is kempt vs. unkempt. I never want them to feel disenfranchised, and they should just know that they should always walk proudly in a bais medrash, shul, etc. as long as they’re kempt (tucked in, shoes tied, etc.). Turned out they can happily go with the b/w program but because of this, they are B”H so non-judgmental.
