Eclipse – You are talking about most people and that’s why most people are still married in the frum community. But the crisis isn’t among “if they have both had a decent upbringing and possess good midos,tolerance,the ability to compromise” these type of people. The people who don’t have these, what should they do to stay married? Divorce is common among children of divorced parents. I’m not going to go into why -that’s a parsha by itself.
In other posts, I’ve called for yeshivos to have in-house psychologists, this is but another reason to have them, for these type of children.