“Any FFB parent that is not interested in a Balei Teshuva boy/ girl for their child is nothing more than a snob! “
I think that statement is a little harsh. You cannot force anyone to accept a shidduch. Even when the parents are both frum BT, the homes they grew up in DO have an impact on them. I had wonderful in-laws, whom I loved dearly, and who loved me the same. But as soon as there was a conflict of a religious nature in the family, they sided with the irreligious relatives. They kept saying, why can we not understand THEIR point of view. To which I replied, WHY can YOU not understand OUR point of view the same way you want us to understand and accept YOURS? It NEVER works that way. The non-frum always expect the frum to make the adjustment.
As I said earlier, it is hard enough making marriage work when you do not have these pressures. Many people simply do not want their kids to have frei grandparents. And we cannot fault the people who feel that way. it is not so glatt an issue as some would like to think. And I have the right to say that – I live that life, and had to work VERY hard to make it work. When my father-in-law thought it was more important to go to his (frei) granddaughter’s first birthday party, rather than to my son’s graduation when he was getting an award for excellence in Limudei Kodesh, I understood that no one has the right to judge someone else’s feelings on this subject.