ckbshl: I see what she’s saying about maturity – there’s definitely an element of truth there. An immature girl will not have worked on her middos. While a mature girl may not be perfect, she generally has a strong awareness of priorities and has worked on herself. Most girls BH are mature by the time they enter shidduchim.
As for me… I look for middos, especially yiras Hashem, responsibility, love of work, a certain amount of simchas hachayim (basically, so we can have a happy home), and getting along with people.
(semi-jokingly)
In real life, I just look at yiras shamayim and how he will treat me. That sounds really selfish, but that’s the truth.