Funny topic. I think that women have a sensitive sense of smell. They know whether their husband is actually accomplishing anything, or if he is going through the motions. That’s even assuming he is not sitting around shmoozing half of seder, where it’s poshut that she will smell him out……
A theory: at it’s core, the divide between the Bais Yaakov system & the Lakewood system is that between a Torah-driven Hirschian derech and the Torah-only Eastern European derech.