WIY:
Agreed.
Now think about it from the perspective of the aggrieved party. The person thinks:
________ ruined my (Insert: shidduch, job, reputation, security, etc.) my life is altered forever. Even if one day EVERYTHING works out, __________ still altered the course of my life. Had I (Insert: gotten married earlier, stayed with the first company, gotten that specific job, had the stellar reputation I deserve, not been taken advantage of in some form, etc.) everything would have been different in life.
Most people don’t brood 24/7/356 about their lives. Yet, when something goes wrong and they feel down, these are the thoughts they think about. When those thoughts are present, it is NOT good for _____________ who they are thinking about.
Don’t be the ___________ in someone’s thoughts. Make sure that you NEVER cause a person’s life to be altered through your words, actions, or inactions.