“Pluses are:
Top notch middos
Bas talmid chochom
Good brothers “
helpful- i find it hurtful that it matters what a girl’s brother and father are like rather than what the girl herself wants for her family. I happen to have great brothers who are talmidei chochomim. However, our father is a baal teshuva and wished he could learn gemara and be a talmud chochom, but it was very difficult for him. He worked and I dont think this is a chisaron for me, a girl who wants to marry a tulmud chochom and raise bnei torah. Why is yichus so important? Don’t we all know that people can be very diffenrent than their families and parents?