Again, if you don’t want it, don’t take it home. Usually the Baal Simcha is happy to have extra bentchers of “their” simcha. To this day I wish I took aside some of our bentchers before the Chasuna, as they were all taken, and the only ones my husband and I have are the ones one of my aunts took for us at the Chasuna! (We had a lot of single friends coming for dancing, and I think many of them wanted a souvenir, so we had a larger number of people taking bentchers.) Certainly if you are only going to put them in shaimos , don’t take them home!!
