oomis – lack of mentschlichkeit can provide for a bad date, not horror. My mother went out with someone who made her take the train home. that’s a horror. frightening. She also went out with someone who ate his entire meal before her’s even came out and then wanted to leave before she had a chance to eat. that is stupid, bulvanish, ill-mannered and a person who should not be getting married yet, but also, not a horror. There is nothing horrifying about it. At the worst, she had to grab a bite of food from her fridge when she got home. Do I feel bad that she had to spend time with that ogre? yes. but nothing frightful happened. Why use over-the-top words to describe things like not holding a car door open? Just curious, oomis: about how old are you? 30s? 40s? etc.
