Wow! It’s unbelievable what harm/damage some of our teachers can and sometimes do. In my experience, when beginning the parsha of shidduchim with my sons, when i called the principal, a female and presented two names for her, the feedback was about scholastics and not middos. The girl with the higher marks was of higher caliber in her eyes. Being upset i called the main principal, a known Rav and mechanech and told him how upset i was and what a miracle that i ever got married…to which he replied “look how far you got and look at some of those girls with the high marks” and that he would definitely look into the matter…which i hope he did. Some of the so called labeled girls end up being top teachers because of their sensitivity to those who don’t fit into the normal mold and some do great shidduchim because someone realizes the common sense they have, which is more important in life than getting 100% or all Alefs and A’a…so don’t worry, Hashem watches over us.
