Dr. Pepper: Yup, it sure does answer my question. Thanks. In a nutshell what you are saying is that the shadchanim engaged in nasty pressure tactics. That is quite outrageous.
It also demonstrates my above point to apushutayid that the shadchanim desperately need the boys while the boys don’t need them. OTOH the girls need the shadchanim. So the shadchanim have no leverage over the boys other than engaging in abusive pressuring tactics.