As someone who was not raised religious, I grew up thinking that chareidim were pigs because they took everyone’s tax shkalim but didn’t serve. If we look at the thread that I posted about me doing sherut leumi, even that had a ton of controversy, and I am a woman, who is in seminary.
Yet, I also did not know when I was a pisher that religious women did sherut leumi. That is a fact that falls under the category of the “untold” in the secular world. Hence, they all hate us because they feel that none of us serve, and they even ignore the fact that dati leumi men do serve in the army- they abstain from the same 39 melachos as we do.
However, the other part that is being ignored, is that I have had some teachers at “seminary A” whose husbands did some form of sherut leumi and today are chareidi rabbis. That is also not told to anyone- including most chareidim.
Obviously, everyone would only know this information if we grew up in a world like pleasantville and never had anything to worry about because we all knew everythoing that we are supposed to know.
I hope that this bit of information clears some stuff up.