I guess R’ Aron Leib Steinman and others who have encouraged finding ways to close the gap have their hashkafos all wrong?
I wonder if Gefen and SSA would call a shadchan for their kids, or just wait for the phone to ring.
Hint: whether or not to do hishtadlus for shidduchim is a machlokes. We pasken a certain way. (I’m not even sure it’s a machlokes when it comes to a communal, rather than individual, approach).