Torah613613Torah – You say you sometimes wish you could just tell the boy what you think directly. You can. And you should. The shidduch norms today, and their protocals, have taken something very precious away from young men and women, in my humble opinion; the ability to express themselves directly and as adults. If one is old enough to be getting married, one is old enough to speak DIRECTLY to the party involved, and not go through all these shlichim.
BTW, what one says through someone else can be misinterpreted, twisted, exaggerated, or fabricated (albeit, one would hope, unintentionally). It’s always better to speak for yourself. Look what happened with Miles Standish.