To me this whole thread seems like a waste of time. The shul has a Rabbi and just tell the Rabbi what your issue is and only the Rabbi should deal with it. He will know where the woman is holding and if it’s worth making an issue or not. If your Rabbi feels he should deal with it he will and if you are not happy with the Rabbi’s choice of how to deal with it and you can’t control your eyes then just switch shuls. Any issue that I have ever had with how things have run in my shul I tell my Rabbi about and then I trust him to make the right choices. If you do not trust your Rabbi you should find another shul regardless of how this tzinus issue is resolved.
