Oh and I forgot to post the advice I got for telling a boy. I’ve actually not had much experience with it, but tue advice I got was to preface the blow by saying thatyou are only telling him now on the advice of your rabbomim. That way, he can’t get mad at you for withholding info…
If you are very uncomfortable with the idea you could ask someone to call beforehand and give the news for you, but the drawback of that is that if the date goes badly you told him for nothing…
Also, I’m wondering if anyone has tried SOS tassis? I have a lot of thoughts on that…some good, some bad- not sure what I feel about it…